Ladies what are you searching for?

If you've ever heard Beyonce sing, Brian McKnight croon, or even Sammi Star Sketch Carey and that other dude sing 'pick me' you've felt that this is how your love life should be! Why hasn't this happened for/to me?!?!?
Stop there, breathe, I need your eyes wide open for this....
Are your ideals solely based on:

• what you've seen in movies
• what you've heard in songs
• your perception of the lives of others
• wishful thinking

If so this is clearly the problem.
If you hit Omar when he upsets you (and don't play stupid women hit men to) then how do you expect a happy ending? He's supposed to fall in line and be Mr Perfect?!?!? Fat chance.
Why do you try to emulate what Olivia has with Greg, when you don't know that he secretly beats her and she can't find the courage to leave, then how are you gonna find forever??!?!
You're only going to frustrate yourself and the person you're with.
If so far you don't do that but you feel like you need a 6ft 4inch man, 225lbs with the stealth of a ninja and the guns of Rambo with or without a paycheck (cause some a yal like take care a man), then you won't ever find Mr Right, Mr Nice Guy.
The dude who has been under your nose for years but because he wasn't your type, your blinders stayed on. If that's you, and I'm not judging, then you need to sit down and figure out what it is you want for you.

Is image really everything? Won't those muscles wither with age (or you wasn't thinking that far along)? Can't that job go as easily as it came? Won't your looks and body change? Will he stay then? Beauty is a fickle friend...

If you need a man that will slap you around, treat you like a bitch (whether you really are or not), and mistreat and use you, seek counseling. Your issues probably lie within yourself or some misconstrued childhood or adult life experience that is hindering you from truly being happy and that's real talk.


FYI there is nothing wrong with seeking help, we're all human.
Via twitter I have had a chance to chat with and meet a young lady I refer to as cow webs, Dawn. I call Dawn cow webs because she has chosen to take the time to get to know the person who pursues her. She knows what she is looking for and what she wants because like many of us she has been in a bad relationships. To this end Ms Dawn isn't sleeping with just anyone (a habit I NEED a few girls to adopt).
The dudes who are just there for the 'front' (and by front i mean: vagina, pussy, cunt, punany, poom poom) quickly get weeded out, you find out more about a person than you might sometimes care to know lol and some things you really wouldn't have known if you just jumped head first into what you think is a "relationship". I crack on her alot but I'm glad to know that there actually women out there with some fucking common sense.
Yeah Kyle sexy, yeah Freddy got a nice body, yeah F Dot and Scharad are good photographers, but what happens when Kyle tells you he is focusing on his music or Mr Slugger got gym clients to focus on and a main girl you didn't take the time to find out about, or worse if Farreno or Scharad grind you and give you a free photo shoot and don't instantly fall in love with what you thought was Benz punany?
Then what.....I'll wait..... You wanna be on #BahamianRealityTVShows True Life: I wanna be on the cover of Stylezine aye? Awuh okay see if sleeping with someone gets you that notoriety (if you ain't a female police officer:oops).
You're chasing these men with ambition, but what is your ambition? To be a house wife? Bitch please here....smt
Get off your ass, make yourself a better person and the quality and type of man you will/should (cause some a yal just...not as fast) attract will follow.

What are you chasing an unavailable man for? Why you following dude who you can clearly see has some issues? You watched a couple of episodes of Dr. Phil and now you think you can fix him? Really now....

Learn yourself, find out what you want for yourself pursue that then look for someone who compliments that, supports that , believes in you.

You won't find it immediately, but having brown-eyed, nice muscular Ahmad's baby ain't gonna keeping. If he has any semblance of common sense your backside will be to the abortion clinic with THEE MOST QUICKNESS! You know why, he has dreams, goals, aspirations and while the pussy good you don't fit into his long term plans. He doesn't want a woman he's gonna have to "take care of" for the rest of her/his life! His paper ain't  that long sweety, and a baby to?!?!? You got to be fucking crazy



Let me tell you now, I will get his $70 personally from him and go get that pill for your ass to take.
But you know what, it doesn't have to be all about that.
I know some educated ladies, striving women who fall into this mess sometimes to. Her man dropping her off in her car and picking her up late and bringing the car back on E! She got her shit together but she's settling for less, smh and dude straight reaping the benefits.
You're asking yourself, well how will I know all of this in the beginning.

Remember cow webs I was telling you about? Well take a page out of her book, try it. Set a 30 day, 60 day rule for yourself and see who sticks around. Who thinks you're worth it. Set goals for yourself and please realize your worth before your life takes a dramatic change that may take years to recover from if recovery is even possible.
My Friend Khristy mentioned how girls tend to go after the dogs: the ones who mistreat them as I stated earlier. Honestly sometimes as women its no one's fault but our own. Stop basing your life on movies you've seen and books you've read. Sammi ain't picking you sweets, he's engaged. Break the cycle for all of our daughter's sake ladies, if not Mr Nice Guy will surely pass you by.

Disclaimer: For Christ's sake I am not saying any of the dudes mentioned actually behave or act that way! So don't say the blog say or if you do be prepared for the cut ass you getting by your damn self, thanks