Be A Woman About It

Gone are the days of little Susie home maker. In a millennium when females are equal if not superior to their male counterparts, women have tapped into the strength they were born with to accomplish more than whatever could have been imagined.

They have made great strides in politics, law, medicine etc and in doing so enriched the quality of life for all mankind. That being said it simply amazes me the amount of bullshit that women allow themselves to get caught up in. 

The petty tirades, cat fights and unnecessary name calling does nothing to aid in our quest to find the cure for cancer or our overall benefit in whatever form it may come.

We are all guilty of indulging in it, I can readily admit that I have fallen victim to it as well. No one is asking you to be friends with someone your 'spirit' genuinely 'doesn't take to' or to go out of your way to be super nice to someone you may think is a total bitch. My suggestion is this, be cordial. Limit the ill mannered words because the same bitches you talk to about her will be the same ones to carry the news adding there own twist to an already unsavoury story.

If you feel so strongly about your feelings and your convictions approach the other person. The petty squabbles back and forth and side eye glances in public does no one any good especially when the murder rate is where it is with an eye opening realization that women have been stabbed, shot, robbed and left for dead as well. If your not 'ballsy' enough to approach them then keep your thoughts to yourself because people are coming up missing my dear and 2011 is not quite over.

The time you take to call a girl crazy you can take to fix or improve upon something in your own life.

The time you find to scrutinize someone's relationship is the time you could have taken to figure out why if you're so perfect your ass is still single.

The energy you take to figure out who is fucking who, is the energy you could use to figure out why no one is fucking you.

You get the gist of what I'm saying. 

Feel offended? Felt like this was aimed at you? Cool. Then there is probably something you need to work on.

No one is perfect so lets not pretend.

You have your 'clique'? That's cool to. Just remember how you secretly talk about them is how they secretly talk about you.

As women we need to rise above the pitfalls of this oppressive nature or history is doomed to keep repeating itself.

Take this with a grain of salt if you must, what you play forward is what you should expect to come back around a hundred fold.

Life: What's Your Game Plan

                     You are born. You live. You die. 

     

   O yeah some other stuff happens in between all of that.

FAILURE TO PLAN IS A PLAN TO FAIL (and no I do not sound like your mummy!)

I cannot put it anymore simply.

Remember when you were young and you wanted to be 6 things and nothing seemed impossible?!?! Yeah, now 

remember you grew up and shit got real?!?! Good.

Life is nowhere near as simple as it was when you were growing up.

The days of marbles, and jumping rope, and Thundercats have long since passed us. There is no more relying on 

and daddy for your every whim and desire. You may still be the prince/princess but that won't pay your car note, 

pay your rent or light bill. Things have certainly changed.

You were once  and now you're on your way to becoming . Mommy and daddy can only help you along so far, and if you were lucky 

they gave you the building blocks for a great future. 

Some of us had it a little harder a little tougher, yet still you rise.

But have you asked yourself "where am i going and how do i plan to get there?"

You have to now setup your own building blocks, things that will help you reach your ultimate destination, achieve 

your goals and be successful. 

Set life goals, short term goals and long term ones and write them down! This makes them more attainable. Its 

easier to tweak a plan then to try and 

recall every intricate step in its entirety from memory. Its not set in stone but its a good way to put your goals 

within reach.

When you've done that make a list of things you need to do to get there, this helps you to better visualize  what  

needs to be done. 

What I'm suggesting is by far one of the easiest things to do. Make the list, write down the steps THEN GET UP 

OF YOUR BACKSIDE and make it happen. Put your plan into motion, research that school you wanted to go to.

Find out the requirements of your plan, your goal, and take steps toward making it a reality.

Nothing is going to happen overnight but with diligence and ambition, you will get much further along then looking 

for a handout or a hand up.

If it is to be then its up to me  

You are your driving force

Afraid to let the walls down
Guard down
While my heart I continue to implore
I'm not what you're used to
I'm what you deserve and more

Let it Go

Heartache is often the hardest thing to overcome.
Whether it is the loss of a loved one, an end of a relationship, a world-changing diagnosis we've experienced it in some form or another.Moving on seems so hard, sometimes damn near impossible but if we don't move on we'll never fully appreciate the good things, the little blessings.
Thank God for small mercies

Yeah she broke your heart; yeah he screwed your sister but karma is a thick bitch with a long dick. LET IT GO.
No one says you'll immediately be able to shake it off but take steps to get there.
Try not to dwell on the negative, keeping busy always helps. But still allow yourself time to grieve so that the healing can begin.

The human spirit is a marvelous thing, throughout history different groups  have been tortured, punished, and some almost wiped out. But through faith and resilience they have survived.
Blacks were slaves.
Jews were being put to death for nothing other than their birthright.
Our problems should seem pale in comparison to those of people over the course of history, but the simple fact is that nothing matters/should matter to you more than yourself.
Your heart literally feels like its aching. You're losing sleep, your appetite has changed dramatically, you've contemplated ways/a means to dull the pain.
Disillusionment is never a good avenue to take.
Work through the pain. Baby steps can lead to great strides, you are more than worth it.

Who knows one day your story may be the exact thing that fills another human being with hope, strength, the courage to continue on.
Cry now, yes the tears will fall, but know the laughter is coming later