When your best is simply not good enough

You've put in work! I mean 'ninja me ninja', "bitch I'm bussin at em" "COME AT ME BRO" hard, educated, efficient work and its still not good enough.

You've been the damn-near-perfect boyfriend/girlfriend. Always there, supportive, going above and beyond what the complacency and normality of our society has become.


She eating at Ichiban while her friends at Bamboo, he steady got new kicks while his boys in their old lady's old navy flip flops!

You have done and are doing what most of your peers deem as too much! So why is this not good enough?!!?!? You far from average, keeping it  fr3sh, not catching feelings for the small things have helped to get your relationship to where it is today.

So why do you feel that there is some inadequacy? Some chip on your shoulder? Something you just can't seem to shake?


I am not one to push religion on people but there is this gospel song that says, 'when you've done all you can, just stand'. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! (she really talking bout religion with that picture up there?!!? yip)

He/she can't appreciate you?
Don't hurt your head. I know this is easier said than done, but all things in time boo boo. It won't come overnight but a peace understanding or 'I no-longer-give-a-fuck' attitude will be born and you'll be all the better for it.

You'll have realized that you're far better off for moving on, leaving/abandoning the situation, and working on being a better you and being with someone that deserves you.
If you're not worth the effort for them now, you won't be worth the effort later sweety.

So get a firm fist and tell em like this
 
You can't explain it better than that!
Why fight for something if you're fighting alone?
Because you see the good in him/her? I bet I slap you!

Don't put yourself through something for a relationship that you're not sure is something of a permanent stature in your life (i.e. if yal ain't married push out).
There is someone better waiting for you! Take time re-evaluate what it is that you want, enjoy being single for a bit. You don't want to take baggage from one relationship into another.

After that feel free to date/love/like flirt! You deserve it!
What someone doesn't appreciate another will revel in and show their appreciation.

To all my working people if you bust your ass, more than the required 9 to 5 or 12 hour shift, however your gig is set up and you go above and beyond the call of duty I applaud you.
If you don't you should try it.


You were passed over for that promotion? Your boss is a total nut job? Rather than developing the mentality that , try to put a positive spin on it.
You know your value, maybe your talents would be better appreciated somewhere else but in these tough economic times it is my humble advice that you do not leave sure for unsure.

Hone your  skills, ask your supervisor for constructive feedback. Maybe their is  something that he or she sees that you may have over looked. Do not settle for mediocrity when greatness is where you're destined to be!

Don't ever sell yourself short! Your experience, education, life lessons that can be integrated into the work place is what makes you valuable and uniquely you. Not everyone can see and appreciate that so if moving on is necessary it's understandable. Be innovative in today's world there are thousands of opportunities no matter how big or small out there, join a non-profit organisation and volunteer your spare time. Use your time and talents wisely. People will notice and hey this addition to your resume couldn't hurt.

So all in all be the best you that you can be, strive for better but don't let anyone walk all over you. You deserve the best and greatness awaits you.
If the bitches don't understand then fuck the bitches.
Keep it one hundred.....

S&M: Well not really

Touch her, tease her, lick her, please her! 

By damn fellas, get comfortable!


What is it that you can do to spice up the sex lives of you and your partner?


What can you do to keep it from becoming mundane?


Is a whip and baby oil a step too far?

hmmmm...........






Knowing when enough is enough is a great thing, but how will you know if you never try!


Ladies crawling into bed  night after night in that same old raggedy t-shirt will not keep Willy and his JR enticed. SPICE IT UP.


Find your way to Lorene's, Shayne's, your Avon lady, Sarah's secrets! Somewhere for Christ sakes that sells a panty with the seat missing! You will thank me later.

Fellas on that same token, invest in some oils, a vibrating ring, some handcuffs, anything to change it up in the bedroom (if you insist this is the only place you guys will do the nasty)

Try, and it doesn't have to be every time you have sex, to recreate the magic. To show her/him how much he/she means to you even after all this time.


Not into all of these devices that you will have to go into a store and buy, use what you have! Take a trip to your fridge and borrow that cool whip, or that chocolate syrup. there is nothing wrong with getting a little messy every once in a while.

Nervous?!?! Never done something like this before? Well talk to your partner! Communication is key! And on that note to all my veterans don't forget to use your safety words!
Talking about it with your partner makes them apart of the decision making process and their gratitude will manifest itself in ways you possibly never imagined.


Some days the slow music and candles are good, other days you need to bend that bitch over in the bathroom at her friends house and show her who is boss! The shock factor and the excitement of getting caught is sure to have her blood pumping!

You know you heard her singing that S&M song from Rihanna, well sweet boy she meant it! You have a freak on your hands and chains and whips really do excite her! Now get to work! ha hiye

Role play, blind fold, try 'doing it' in a semi public area something! Keep it fresh, ask if there is something that your mate has wanted to try and do your best to help them fulfill that fantasy! you will not be disappointed believe me!

This is 2011 and after you've read Macarra's blog about what to do after you got the guy/girl you had better step your game up!


Work on keeping your relationship fresh, especially the sexual aspect of it. Keep your body tight for your mate, eyes do wonder! Give them less of a reason to!


Ladies put on that french maid outfit, that school girl uniform! 


Fellas send that raunchy text that'll make her clench up in pure shock and excitement.


And do it before it is too late!


To the veteran's these suggestions may be so yesterday but hey a mini- refreshers course never hurt anyone.....

Life: What's Your Game Plan

                     You are born. You live. You die. 

     

   O yeah some other stuff happens in between all of that.

FAILURE TO PLAN IS A PLAN TO FAIL (and no I do not sound like your mummy!)

I cannot put it anymore simply.

Remember when you were young and you wanted to be 6 things and nothing seemed impossible?!?! Yeah, now 

remember you grew up and shit got real?!?! Good.

Life is nowhere near as simple as it was when you were growing up.

The days of marbles, and jumping rope, and Thundercats have long since passed us. There is no more relying on 

and daddy for your every whim and desire. You may still be the prince/princess but that won't pay your car note, 

pay your rent or light bill. Things have certainly changed.

You were once  and now you're on your way to becoming . Mommy and daddy can only help you along so far, and if you were lucky 

they gave you the building blocks for a great future. 

Some of us had it a little harder a little tougher, yet still you rise.

But have you asked yourself "where am i going and how do i plan to get there?"

You have to now setup your own building blocks, things that will help you reach your ultimate destination, achieve 

your goals and be successful. 

Set life goals, short term goals and long term ones and write them down! This makes them more attainable. Its 

easier to tweak a plan then to try and 

recall every intricate step in its entirety from memory. Its not set in stone but its a good way to put your goals 

within reach.

When you've done that make a list of things you need to do to get there, this helps you to better visualize  what  

needs to be done. 

What I'm suggesting is by far one of the easiest things to do. Make the list, write down the steps THEN GET UP 

OF YOUR BACKSIDE and make it happen. Put your plan into motion, research that school you wanted to go to.

Find out the requirements of your plan, your goal, and take steps toward making it a reality.

Nothing is going to happen overnight but with diligence and ambition, you will get much further along then looking 

for a handout or a hand up.

If it is to be then its up to me  

La Familia

Whether you look like this

or like that, you have a group of relatives, blood or otherwise who you consider to be family. No matter how mad, how irate, how pissed of you get you can't seem to get rid of them.

No matter how much money they owe you, you owe them, clothes borrowed and times they pop up announce, you're stuck with them. 

THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY,  they are your familia.

The uncle on drugs, the cousin what bad, the relative with the drinking problem, the cousin that always need to borrow money they can't ever seem to pay you back. Ce la vie! Knowing you're stuck with these folks can never be a good and reassuring thing, not when you're not in crisis anyway.

They may not be perfect, in fact their are more than likely far from it, but they are there when you need them, they rally up behind you and they most definitely have got your back. 

This is when you truly appreciate them and the little things become less than insignificant.

When the diagnosis comes back and you've got cancer, family is all you've got and now becomes the foremost focus of your days numbered life. But why weren't they before?

We are guilty of it, "mom i'ma call you back" - but you never do, "yeah yeah cousin Tony, I got you"-then you ignore his calls until he gets the point. But the minute you got some type of terminal illness, Bible in hand and you love your family. Cousin Judy with the bad weave becomes beautiful then, Uncle Kenneth is handsome even with his teeth missing, but you're just now coming to this realisation.

Everything has been put in perspective and the fights, spats, wars just aren't worth it anymore.

The money you let them borrow, they can keep it. Never lend what you're not prepared to lose.

The nasty comments about the finding of the baby daddy ceases, because you now see the striving single mother that is your cousin and your heart swells with pride.

Your ability to condemn your loved ones has vanished and now you only see the good.

Well not all of us have been diagnosed with a terminal illness, nor have had our days numbered but why wait until such a thing happens to appreciate our families. 

Why not see your cousin as artistic and not a faggot?

Why not see your sister as easy-going instead of easy?

Why your dad got to be the one with the issues? Tell him how you feel!

Do it before its too late, do it before it doesn't matter anymore.

Fervent Admiration Materialised Living Intertwined Yearly

Corny I know but you get the point.

The more time you live with someone the easier it is to notice their flaws, the easier it is for them to get on your nerves. But try instead to focus on the positive, try to create good memories instead of bitter, angry ones. 

You can't help who you have as family but you sure can help how you act and what you do about it.

Break the cycles of separated families, starting with your own.

Forgive and forget and be honest with each other.

They can't ask for money if they know you don't have it.

You don't have to duck phone calls if you straight up say that you cannot facilitate them.

Real begets real; try it, you might like it.

Missing Information: Fill in the blanks

Let's play a game it's called fill in the blanks.

Be fore-warned IF YOU LIVE IN A GLASS HOUSE DO NOT THROW STONES
 

I am all for maturity but at the end of the day some of us really never grow up.
If anyone isn't relevant in your life and you still take time to acknowledge them, bitch, they are a motherfucking factor.

I've always told people I meet what I like from what I don't like, we all as women sit down and discuss things with 'girlfriends'.

This is where we play that game (that is of course if you don't live in a glass house)

Scenario #1:
You go out with a guy, he takes you by a friend, he's "too tired" to drive home. You have to sleep in the room  with him, matter of fact, in the same bed. His friend enters the room and attempts to sleep with you while the guy pretends to be asleep.
You can no longer take it so you in all your rage walk around the corner to another dude you know house. He let's you in, you explain your situation, you have sex.
Wait stop but you went out the other night and he kissed a whole other human being in the front of you.
You finished screwing and all on the door you hear is bam bam bam, the girl he is dating has hopped the fence, you know the girl you called "Spiderman". She's pissed as fuck cause dude hasn't answered her calls and she can quite clearly see his car is home, meanwhile your ass in the house. He's frantic, wanting to spare her feelings and avoid any confrontation, and you're scared because you knew quite well what the deal was. But in your defense you didn't know right away what the situation was.
You are a _______ (fill in the blanks)


Scenario #2:
You've met a guy, and guess what, he flies planes! Omg ikr!
You start talking getting to know each other everything is going great.
You asked for a favor, he obliged, or atleast appeared to. You get where you're going (in your defense you said the conversation was bland, like dude had no life) and all of a sudden he gets a call! He has to go, he can't help you anymore. You and the clothes have to go back home.
You are a ____________ (fill in the blanks)


Scenario #3:
Your friend comes to town, you stay with them in the hotel because the hustle and bustle back and forth is not worth the hassle, cool. Your friend is dating someone, someone she's told that her interests have waded, but never-the-less she's dating them, he is staying with her in this hotel.
She, from what you know and possibly have seen, has been up-front with the young man and told him that she is no longer interested.
Cool, they still have to see each other for the rest of the trip, no worries.
You take a shower and change into comfortable clothes, that's a given. Your friend tells you she feels your choice in clothing is inappropriate, yes she is not interested in the young man but she feels that there is an unspoken line that should never be crossed and your clothing is drawing the young man's attention. You get defensive which is only right, fine.
Your friend is leaving and due to time constraints you have to travel with her and the young man to the airport, no biggie. She gets dropped to the airport, flight is scheduled to leave on time and you have said your good bye's.
An hour later she contacts you and she is made aware that you are still with the afore-mentioned young man. She expresses her concern and you let her know that he said he had errands to run, you can't help it, and clearly she was not made aware that all the buses ain't working so you have no other means of leaving the company of this young man.
You hang up from your friend and you and the young man talk, exchange numbers and proceed to get to know one another, a few weeks later yal fucking. Your friend finds out, deletes you from facebook and cuts all ties to you.
You are a __________ (fill in the blank)


Scenario #4:
You've met through a male friend, a young lady unemployed who's going through a divorce. Yal get cool, your family kicks up a fuss because of reasons known to you, you ask her to stay in her apartment a couple of days. Everything is going smoothly, you are eating on time, running water and a bed to sleep in. Your period comes on and you find yourself having to use her pads, her tampons. Don't worry you replace the tampons so its all good.
You eventually go home, something happens to someone dear to you. Your friends try to comfort you, you're handling it very well. The home you live in becomes crowded so again you ask a favor of the young lady you've just met, she comes through, no fuss. As the proceedings wind down she offers to be there to lend her support but her ride fails her, however you are fully made aware at all times what is going on.
Heck if you back track she was the shoulder you cried on when things got tough.
You eat dinner by her so often and the men you're involved with often times pick you up from her residence. You at one point offer her a ride to a store she plans on walking to, she respectfully declines and you part ways for the time being.
Any who, she talks to you, tells you to put your life in perspective: you need a job to support yourself so you'll never have to rely on a man, if you're going to continue on with these guys make sure the help you with toiletries  like lotion, pads, tampons, hair supplies; she admits to you she isn't perfect, she told you her husband cheated on her, she also told you she had the courage to not take the bullshit and asked him to leave but the specifics of such things are a blur to you.
There are things she sees that she doesn't agree with, the meals and interaction slows then stops, she has distanced herself from you. You still interact with her best friend and you make mention of her being a vindictive bitch, something she told you she was when she first met you.
Anyway, long story short things ain't things but that's okay, people change or remain the same and just move somewhere else.
You named specifics about her life but leave out crucial parts, you are a _________ (fill in the blank)


Scenario #5
You're hanging out with people you know on a holiday, you've been waiting all day to eat, but we all know how grill outs are. The people who invited you, you hit on their interest: their family, a big no no. They are informed and decide the best route is a civil one. You've been made aware of certain situations and take to your cell phone to express your frustration but it falls on deaf ears, you delete yourself from the 'group' you were once apart of. You never once denied what was being said, instead you shouted how people were in co hoots against you.
You are a ____________ (fill in the blank)


I could paint numerous scenarios but I was trying to be ORIGINAL.
What you give to the world you can't take back, but what is yours the world can never have.
Females, educate yourselves, I know it's easier said than done but at the end of the day it will be worth it.

FUN FACT: The darkest depths of the ocean is called the Laurentian abyss.

Let's get educated people.