What She Wishes You Really Knew

After reading a very simple yet insightful article I've decided to share some of what I've discovered. I agreed with most things in the article and will try to provide a link to it so that it can be read in its entirety at your leisure.

Men and women differ greatly and the lines of communication are almost always crossed. Hopefully these few #whatshewishesyoureallyknew tid bits help to change the way things are perceived by our male counterparts.

1. I will leave if you lie.
(If she stays distrust will only further ruin an already sundered relationship.)

2. I love it when you hug me from behind and whisper in my ear.

3. "Fine" is never an appropriate response when I ask you I look.

4. Most of the time when I fantasize, it's about you.

5. I get excited on simply seeing I have an email/text/whatsapp/bbm/phone call from you.

6. I expect you to call me.

7. I'm scared of losing my independence.

8. I'm  more forgiving of you than I really should be.
(Fellas appreciate THIS)

9. If I'm not having sex with you, I'm... a) ...having a fat day... b) ...not feeling "connected" to you. c)...blackmailing you to get something I want.

10. A man I love plans the occasional fancy-schmancy dress-up date and impromptu weekend getaways, and he buys my favorite candy in advance when we're just going to the movies.
(MESSAGE!!!! Its the little things that count guys)

11.When I compare my flabby tummy to a kangaroo pouch, say nothing.

12. You should never tell me what to do.

13. My breasts love much licking and sucking.
(You should have no problems obliging to this one.)

14. I'm very impressed when you ask for my advice.

15. Women get urinary-tract infections easily, so watch (and wash) your fingers.

16. You're sexy when you're: shaving, fixing things, wearing a white T-shirt and jeans, driving, holding a baby.

17. I need to hear how you feel about me. OFTEN.

18. If I'm not feeling loved, I will start looking...
(This goes both ways)

19. Even nice girls like hushed dirty talk in public.

20. For the record: I'd rather you break up with me than cheat.

21. It's cheating as soon as you're doing something with her that you wouldn't want me to see, hear, read...

22. You should know all this and more without my telling you.

Food for thought

50 Things Women Wish Men Knew

La Familia

Whether you look like this

or like that, you have a group of relatives, blood or otherwise who you consider to be family. No matter how mad, how irate, how pissed of you get you can't seem to get rid of them.

No matter how much money they owe you, you owe them, clothes borrowed and times they pop up announce, you're stuck with them. 

THE GOOD, THE BAD AND THE UGLY,  they are your familia.

The uncle on drugs, the cousin what bad, the relative with the drinking problem, the cousin that always need to borrow money they can't ever seem to pay you back. Ce la vie! Knowing you're stuck with these folks can never be a good and reassuring thing, not when you're not in crisis anyway.

They may not be perfect, in fact their are more than likely far from it, but they are there when you need them, they rally up behind you and they most definitely have got your back. 

This is when you truly appreciate them and the little things become less than insignificant.

When the diagnosis comes back and you've got cancer, family is all you've got and now becomes the foremost focus of your days numbered life. But why weren't they before?

We are guilty of it, "mom i'ma call you back" - but you never do, "yeah yeah cousin Tony, I got you"-then you ignore his calls until he gets the point. But the minute you got some type of terminal illness, Bible in hand and you love your family. Cousin Judy with the bad weave becomes beautiful then, Uncle Kenneth is handsome even with his teeth missing, but you're just now coming to this realisation.

Everything has been put in perspective and the fights, spats, wars just aren't worth it anymore.

The money you let them borrow, they can keep it. Never lend what you're not prepared to lose.

The nasty comments about the finding of the baby daddy ceases, because you now see the striving single mother that is your cousin and your heart swells with pride.

Your ability to condemn your loved ones has vanished and now you only see the good.

Well not all of us have been diagnosed with a terminal illness, nor have had our days numbered but why wait until such a thing happens to appreciate our families. 

Why not see your cousin as artistic and not a faggot?

Why not see your sister as easy-going instead of easy?

Why your dad got to be the one with the issues? Tell him how you feel!

Do it before its too late, do it before it doesn't matter anymore.

Fervent Admiration Materialised Living Intertwined Yearly

Corny I know but you get the point.

The more time you live with someone the easier it is to notice their flaws, the easier it is for them to get on your nerves. But try instead to focus on the positive, try to create good memories instead of bitter, angry ones. 

You can't help who you have as family but you sure can help how you act and what you do about it.

Break the cycles of separated families, starting with your own.

Forgive and forget and be honest with each other.

They can't ask for money if they know you don't have it.

You don't have to duck phone calls if you straight up say that you cannot facilitate them.

Real begets real; try it, you might like it.

Domestic Violence-It ain't worth it

The simplest things set him off; you forgot to reheat his dinner, he can't find his tie, he had a bad day at work. Things that you can't control make you his punching bag?!?!? You got to be fucking kidding me. For those of you who know me who you know I talk alot of smack but this time its no laughing matter.
From this stand point the Bahamas is a tiny set of islands on this round ball of gases water and land we call earth, and we can all say we have heard of or know someone who has fallen victim to domestic violence. Some instances have ended in tragedy, like back in 2008 Bloneva Bethel (God rest her soul) was a victim of a domestic dispute that ended badly for her.
As sad as it is, ladies like Ms Bethel have had the power and the time to walk away, though few seldom do. It usually takes the involvement of family and friends (a strong support system) to help the abused to leave the toxic situation. This should never be the case. In the latest issue of Stylezine there is an article that speaks about the red flags, signs we as women should notice in our partner. Yes everyone is different and normal is now a relative term because of the strong holds that society has once had on the word now being broken, but sweet girl a red flag is a red flag and if he can do it once he will damn sure do it again!
If Tom had a bad day at the office, got laid off from work, lost big at a gambling game, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. He decides to hit you, slap you around, shake the shit out of you, treat you like you are less than a human being, YOU NEED TO LEAVE!!!! No amount of 'I am sorry's' or 'I'll never do it again' or 'my hand slipped baby' is worth risking you life over! None! Think of your kids, those you have already or those you may want to have in the future. What type of example would mommy be setting for them? This is where the cycle starts, this is where you end it then and there.
Swallow your pride, drag your ass to the neighbors house, seek refuge there, call the damn police! You are worth more than that. Your life is too precious for you to allow Tom to hit you whether this was the first time or a repeat offense.
Some of us weren't blessed with men in our lives who would no sooner break Tom's neck than have him harm a hair on our head, if you have these men in your life: an uncle, father, cousin, brothers, friend be eternally grateful. These men will not make excuses for Tom if their balls are real and without so much as a second thought will provide you with the protection you need or the support you need to help you get your shit and get out!
To those who do not have these men in your lives, you need to find a friend (female or male) who you can go to, confide in, seek refuge in times of trouble. Sacrifice your pride it may save your life!
As a child growing up my grandmother would show me pictures of her and her sisters, beautiful Long Island women standing tall and proud. I could always pick out who was who, there was only one lady that I could not identify. She was a sister I never got to meet. She was a victim of domestic abuse. It seems all to true the more stories I hear that most families didn't believe in divorce no matter the circumstances and up until my gran-aunts husband beat her cancer stricken body to death their views had not changed.
Instilled with the values that are different from those of today's generation, she stayed with that punk, too ashamed of what people would think. She suffered in silence with the black eyes and the bruises, a "conchy joe" woman who had to have a closed casket funeral, who's earthly beauty was no more and who's children had to grow up without a mother, all for shame of what people would think.
Luckily this is a new era and the cycle can will and must be broken! The article in Stylezine lists the Crisis Center number and I feel every young woman, woman or child who has suffered this abuse use this number (242-328-0922 or 242-328-7824) and seek the help necessary to leave. Stop making excuses for him! By know if you haven't cooked a pot of hot grits and honey, because the honey makes it stick, you should strongly consider it. your body is yours alone to do with whatever it is you choose. Never let a man make you feel like a second class citizen when you have every right and opportunity that he has!
If he HITS, SLAPS, WITHHOLDS MONEY, HURTS, THREATENS, PUSHES, and or DENIES YOU YOUR FREEDOM! YOU need to leave! Listen to that small voice that is telling you that it is wrong, that you should leave, confide in someone, go to the authorities and move on with your life, before an act of violence takes your life away from you.

www.bahamascrisiscentre.com
www.stylezinemagazine.com (RED FLAGS ARTICLE)