I see you looking

It's so easy to sit and point on the imperfections in the life another. It takes our minds away from the problems we are faced with in our lives. We feel superior, more intelligent and better than the individual being criticized. 

What we fail to realize is our problems still exists, bills still have to be paid, our lives aren't any better because of the bashing.

We all at some point or another have indulged in this frivolous act, for reasons only we can explain. The past cannot be changed but we can make every attempt to not carry such a spirit of fruitless verbal labor into our futures. 

Everything is almost always easier said than done and no will instantly stop habits that have formed over the course of possibly a life time but the changed will be noticed. You will begin to see the positive aspects in situations more than the negative connotations that may have presented themselves and feel all the more lifted when you choose to take the high road.

I've come across females that made frustrated, men who acted as if they bled on a cycle every month and rather than retaliate I'm learning to ignore, or at the very lease refocus my attention.

I'm happier for it. I have learnt lessons and I've grown as individual.

Sometimes the stupid things that people do can help you to find a better you😊

What She Wishes You Really Knew

After reading a very simple yet insightful article I've decided to share some of what I've discovered. I agreed with most things in the article and will try to provide a link to it so that it can be read in its entirety at your leisure.

Men and women differ greatly and the lines of communication are almost always crossed. Hopefully these few #whatshewishesyoureallyknew tid bits help to change the way things are perceived by our male counterparts.

1. I will leave if you lie.
(If she stays distrust will only further ruin an already sundered relationship.)

2. I love it when you hug me from behind and whisper in my ear.

3. "Fine" is never an appropriate response when I ask you I look.

4. Most of the time when I fantasize, it's about you.

5. I get excited on simply seeing I have an email/text/whatsapp/bbm/phone call from you.

6. I expect you to call me.

7. I'm scared of losing my independence.

8. I'm  more forgiving of you than I really should be.
(Fellas appreciate THIS)

9. If I'm not having sex with you, I'm... a) ...having a fat day... b) ...not feeling "connected" to you. c)...blackmailing you to get something I want.

10. A man I love plans the occasional fancy-schmancy dress-up date and impromptu weekend getaways, and he buys my favorite candy in advance when we're just going to the movies.
(MESSAGE!!!! Its the little things that count guys)

11.When I compare my flabby tummy to a kangaroo pouch, say nothing.

12. You should never tell me what to do.

13. My breasts love much licking and sucking.
(You should have no problems obliging to this one.)

14. I'm very impressed when you ask for my advice.

15. Women get urinary-tract infections easily, so watch (and wash) your fingers.

16. You're sexy when you're: shaving, fixing things, wearing a white T-shirt and jeans, driving, holding a baby.

17. I need to hear how you feel about me. OFTEN.

18. If I'm not feeling loved, I will start looking...
(This goes both ways)

19. Even nice girls like hushed dirty talk in public.

20. For the record: I'd rather you break up with me than cheat.

21. It's cheating as soon as you're doing something with her that you wouldn't want me to see, hear, read...

22. You should know all this and more without my telling you.

Food for thought

50 Things Women Wish Men Knew

Divinity

Have you ever felt like you would take on the world if you had to? Repel bullets if need be? All for that one special person!!
That unconditional, unrequited love you feel each time you look into their eyes.
It's a beautiful feeling. A feeling a lot of us know first hand and a feeling others will come to know in their own time 😊

There is no greater joy than the accomplishment of being a parent.
Other things may come close but they don't quite compare. *blissful sigh* it's a wonderful feeling but alas some people never know the full and true joy of parenthood.

Many young people today are becoming parents by default in today's society. Some see the blessing in what they consider a mistake, accept the challenge and for the first time in their lives put another human being before themselves.

Others ignore what instinct they feel and continue to live, "young and wild and free" with no regard for the life they have helped to create and should help to mold. This is sad but thankfully we still live in a nation where it takes a village to raise a child; so if you find yourself able to lend a helping hand, do so. You never know when you yourself will need that helping hand.

Not sure you're ready for parenthood? Completely ignore Rodney Moncur's advice and take the necessary measurements needed. You'd never want an innocent life to suffer or to not have all that you can possibly offer because you were unprepared.

Just a little random advice 😁

We all of these days, no peppy message with this one

I'm crying everyone's tears
And there inside our private war
I died the night before
And all of these remnants of joy and disaster
What am I suppose to do

I want to cook you a soup that warms your soul
But nothing would change, nothing would change at all
It's just a day that brings it all about
Just another day and nothing's any good

The DJ's playing the same song
I have so much to do
I have to carry on
I wonder if this grief will ever let me go
I feel like I am the king of sorrow, yeah
The king of sorrow


I suppose I could just walk away
Will I disappoint my future if I stay
It's just a day that brings it all about
Just another day and nothing's any good

The DJ's playing the same song
I have so much to do
I have to carry on
I wonder will this grief ever be gone
Will it ever go
I'm the king of sorrow, yeah
The king of sorrow

I'm crying everyone's tears
I have already paid for all my future sins
There's nothing anyone
Can say to take this away
It's just another day and nothing's any good

I'm the king of sorrow, yeah
King of sorrow
I'm the king of sorrow, yeah
King of sorrow

Just Keep It Real

"I slept on this couch for weeks to make shit real" -Quelle

Humility is such a beautiful thing that is seemingly so rare in this day and time.

There is a difference between the have and the have nots, but what happens when the have nots try to give off the illusion that they do indeed possess certain things; whether it be business connects, friends in high places, or the money needed to make things happen?

What happens is some people are fooled, those who wish they had those things quickly try to align themselves with you to piggy back off of what they think it is you have and they your name gets dragged through the mud when push comes to shove and you cannot deliver.
That's one side of it. The other side of it is others silently watch from afar, people who saw your potential, your talent and would've reached out if you had some how managed to keep it real.

I will never understand how on an island that is 21X7 some have convinced others that the dirt in their hand is actually gold.
Don't rap about a Benz that you have rent or borrow to put in your video.
Don't glamorize a "vacation" you took that you had to spend on someone's couch until you sweet talked some poor sole into sending you a ticket for you to get back home.
Keep it real!

Life is always sweeter when we can be honest with ourselves.
Fuck what the world thinks.

Quelle talks about his sacrifices, a rarity in this humble guy I've known for years, and not once was there a flicker of remorse or disdain in his voice. He knew the road he chose wasn't going to be an easy one and he in no way tries to glamorize it or how he gets it done.

I listen to this other chick and she's all about that "jet set" life -_- sweet girl please grow up.
Flying coach on borrowed miles or funds is hardly the jet set life.
Reality is reality is reality is reality and only you can change it.

So you slept on a couch until shit started to happen?!?!
That's a story worth hearing! That's inspiration to your fellow country men that want to trod the path that you have undertaken. That is keeping it real!

No one respects the person who is in "ATL" rubbing shoulders with so and so and nothing ever materializes.....
You look like a fraud. Whether you are actual one or not will likely become the subject of many a discussions and I'm pretty sure the odds are not in your favor.

Avoid all of that homie and just keep it real. No one said you had to tell anyone anything to begin with but it's when you choose to share and you lie AND ARE FOUND OUT that you just look so gully. Just let's avoid that eh?

No one is perfect and we all make mistakes but learn from them before it's too late.

No Hit Wonders: Bahamians At Work


A hip hop hypnotic duo has come together to form what apparently the streets been needing from Run DMC retired way back when.
Their unadulterated love for all genres of music and uncanny ability to recognize genius is what keeps them leaps and bounds above the rest. They are NO HIT WONDERS!

On the 16th of June, 2012 they plan to put on what should be one of if not the most talked about concerts of the year. Amply titled 'The Secret Concert' you should expect the unexpected.

They gave you the secret party and you asked for MORE, so now they're delivering.
This hot, steaming, piping mixture of greatness is the buzz around town as international artists Cloud Eater will perform alongside Bahamian heavy weights, The Truth Band and The Illest Band.
Fusion rock, hip hop, reggae, conscious vibes in an atmosphere that will surely have your senses heightened, what more could you ask for?

In a time when the normal club scene is a drag and the people are asking for different, asking for new, needing something fresh; NO HIT WONDERS has accepted that daunting task and we expect they shall deliver.

With free ticket giveaways and more in store, stay tuned.No Hit Wonders on facebook

Register to vote, I dare ya!

With election right around the corner I had the privilege of viewing a film called on the wings of men by Calvin Dwight Harris. He compiled hours of footage an interviews to provide an astounding look at one of our most noted nation builders.: Sir Lynden Oscar Pindling.

The main focus of the film, in my opinion was the political life and hardships face by Sir Lynden. In what may have seemed as an unthinkable feat he helped to bring about our independence and establish an efficient form of government. Those accomplishments were not met without their set of obstacles, including being ostracized by fellow Bahamians and fellow politicians alike, called in to question on the basis of characteristic and practices by the United States government and being accountable at all times to the Bahamian people and the new nation he was helping to mold.

That was very few generations ago and it rings true in the hearts and minds of many older Bahamians who were there to see hear and be apart such a historical time.
To some degree this has crippled our culture not allowing our parents and grandparents to press onward, continuously being innovative, open-minded and supportive of new policies and factions. they've held onto a past, that past for far too long.

Bahamians seem to have to be at their wits end politically to be open to or hold steadfast to the idea of ushering in a new regime, a fresh breeze, a fresh outlook, CHANGE!
While its easy to stick with what you know and go with what has worked best time and time again, nothing is concrete in an ever-changing world THAT HAS BEEN PROVEN!

I've had political parties come to my home, and just like I hear on the radio, see on television or view over the internet bash the other party for whatever there short comings may be at the same time I've hard parties take the time to sit down and explain their plan, their views and ideas.
That is the type of conversation I welcome and the conversations I hope our youth will welcome. Bashing another politician or party gets you nowhere and it gets you there fast in the mindset of many. It is also welcome by a large number of people and has proven to have some influence in our electoral process. If it didn't why would they continue to do so?
If you stoop to their level what is to stop me from believing that you won't make the blunders that they themselves have already made?

Don't tell me going Green will be a waste of my young vote!

Don't tell me about The FNM's shortcomings as if you yourself are God!

Don't tell me the PLP is out of touch!

Instead tell me what are your individual goals and your parties over all plan for the nation
I am a Bahamian and proud to be one and that being said you should never underestimate my intelligence.

I've sat and talked with members of the generation that were around for the era of Pindling only to hear how for the first time in their lives Hubert Alexander Ingraham and the FNM, has their vote, their voice!

I've spoken to the generation of my parents some of whom feel that the grass may definitely be greener on the plp's side.

And I'm always in conversation with my generation who the DNA has a seemingly favorite position with, they feel that it is definitely time for a change, time to usher in a younger fresher point of view. They see that in Branville McCartney and the Democratic National Alliance. They see their future and the future of generations to come in 'going green'.

Everyone under the sun is entitled to their opinion and I firmly believe that this election will prove to be a shocker to many of my fellow Bahamians.

You want to be an agent of change? You plan to go green?

You want the bush to crack again and Perry to be gone?

You say Papa got your back? You feel the torch still burns bright?

YOUR VOTE YOUR VOICE

If you haven't as yet I encourage you to register to vote.
No amount of trash talking, politician bashing or arguing will mean squat if you can't mark your vote for those you so valiantly defend at this present time.

One vote, one voice and as was proven in the Elizabeth bi-election your vote can mean the difference.
Don't put off for tomorrow what you can do today!

Register to vote, I dare ya!

Be A Woman About It

Gone are the days of little Susie home maker. In a millennium when females are equal if not superior to their male counterparts, women have tapped into the strength they were born with to accomplish more than whatever could have been imagined.

They have made great strides in politics, law, medicine etc and in doing so enriched the quality of life for all mankind. That being said it simply amazes me the amount of bullshit that women allow themselves to get caught up in. 

The petty tirades, cat fights and unnecessary name calling does nothing to aid in our quest to find the cure for cancer or our overall benefit in whatever form it may come.

We are all guilty of indulging in it, I can readily admit that I have fallen victim to it as well. No one is asking you to be friends with someone your 'spirit' genuinely 'doesn't take to' or to go out of your way to be super nice to someone you may think is a total bitch. My suggestion is this, be cordial. Limit the ill mannered words because the same bitches you talk to about her will be the same ones to carry the news adding there own twist to an already unsavoury story.

If you feel so strongly about your feelings and your convictions approach the other person. The petty squabbles back and forth and side eye glances in public does no one any good especially when the murder rate is where it is with an eye opening realization that women have been stabbed, shot, robbed and left for dead as well. If your not 'ballsy' enough to approach them then keep your thoughts to yourself because people are coming up missing my dear and 2011 is not quite over.

The time you take to call a girl crazy you can take to fix or improve upon something in your own life.

The time you find to scrutinize someone's relationship is the time you could have taken to figure out why if you're so perfect your ass is still single.

The energy you take to figure out who is fucking who, is the energy you could use to figure out why no one is fucking you.

You get the gist of what I'm saying. 

Feel offended? Felt like this was aimed at you? Cool. Then there is probably something you need to work on.

No one is perfect so lets not pretend.

You have your 'clique'? That's cool to. Just remember how you secretly talk about them is how they secretly talk about you.

As women we need to rise above the pitfalls of this oppressive nature or history is doomed to keep repeating itself.

Take this with a grain of salt if you must, what you play forward is what you should expect to come back around a hundred fold.

Letter To Your Ex

So much for happy endings and the fairy-tales we've all dreamed about. Life never quite works itself out the way we planned.

Remember the days when you were a kid and life was so simple? Well those day are long gone and harsh reality sometimes sets in.

To ladies who saw beyond prom and had already begun planning their dream wedding and to guys who for all intents and purposes went along with playing house etc for whatever reason, nothing is the same any-more is it?

Life is a constant change and so it's no one's fault, or is it?
Who should the women who stayed by men thinking that they found forever but found heartache blame?

Who should the dudes that did right by their woman only to get stepped on and stepped over talk to?

Well hopefully no one starts talking to themselves that wouldn't be good.
If you've got the time or you get really angry one day write your ex letter (PLEASE GOD NEVER MAIL IT) purge yourself of any grudges or ill emotion you may have for that individual. You'll sleep a lot better. Need help, well here are some suggestions:


(LADIES)

Dear F*c*er,

ASS

I've been through with your

The hours, days and nights were never worth wtf you put me through. In all the fucks that I've had to give about you, you were never worth a single on of em. *chuckles* If I knew then what I knew now you wouldn't have been given the first fuck, but you live and you learn.
Stronger, wiser, more inept to my surroundings is what you've made me. The nights I caught your ass in Brooke's bakery while I was supposed to be waiting home on you.
I thought you should know that your head is whack and I stayed because I thought I loved you.
I heard your version of the story from a mutual friend and while I can't expect better of you I applaud your trifling ass for finally making some effort.
Do us all a favor and keep your "swag" to yourself.

Singed,
__________(Your name here)


(GUYS)

Dear What's Your Face,

How's it hanging? Nah I meant your pussy lips girl. You fed me this story about love and devotion but you steady was giving it to Joe.
The many times you said you were just friends with that politician who shall remain nameless was more than enough mud for me to be dragged through. But the mud his wife dragged you through when she came home and caught the two you provides solace for me you skeezing whore.

Trips and jewellery, fine dining and shit, pushing a nucca to commit when any dude could've hit!
Rap songs about your ass, studio time cut,
All for what I thought was for the love of some tired ass cunt.
Well I heard your road is really rocky now, your bills no longer paid,
Called your ass to cuss you out but BTC turned off your post-paid
Ain't that about a bitch
But Cash For Gold is real
Car payments have to make boo-boo
Drop it low girl, drop it drop it low girl
you know the deal

Singed,
_________(Your name here)

If writing it down makes you feel better (in cases where issues went unresolved) then by all means do that. Just be honest with yourself.
My suggestion to you is if  your letter resembles any of those words formed to make phrases and sentences up there then seeking counsel in a physcologist  or a physciatrist may not be such a bad idea. Clearly there are too many unresolved issues for you to handle alone.

No one thing is entirely your fault but take time to think, ask yourself if there weren't any warning signs that you were just too jaded to see. It takes two people to make a relationship work and if you never learned to live for you and realised ladies that nothing will "keep" him then sorry to say, you were bound to stub your toe.
Fellas you had no way of knowing is something that I highly doubt but  not beating her with someone else's stick (or for that fact beating her at all) is a feat within itself. However, if you met her a ho (you know: that night you and all your boys ran a train on her) then chances are shit just might not have worked itself out.
Ah well, you live and you learn.

Dust yourself off, take time to heal to avoid dragging baggage into the next relationship, and keep it one hundred.

Nothing will "keep" him

You cook, you clean, you sew and you give bj's without having to be asked! In your mind you are "the shit". In most cases you're probably right. You season chicken with the greatest that Kyle demands !...! You keep it tight and yet one day he ups and leaves you.
What did you do wrong? What didn't you do?

Ladies, have you ever really thought about it? Nothing will "keep" him.

Regardless of the cookie cut version of what he expressed many moons ago that you portray or have become for what you thought would be his undying love and devotion sweety Kyle still left.

You heard bitter women, happy women, confused women preach that you gotta live for you but you never heeded the advice they gave. The grain of salt you should have used to cipher through the bullshit, you used to cook ol boy's food, and where has that gotten you? Alone! That's where. Too many of these relationships and you'll soon be a bag lady.

Learn to live for you, when your life completely revolves around your significant other you're bound to be let down. Disappointments come, yes this is true but the human spirit is such a powerful and steadfast that it can bounce back; recover from what one would consider to be devastating experience to soar to heights previously thought to be unreachable. You're likely to be less devastated if you have/had other interests in short, a life!

Who cares if his favorite color is green! That doesn't mean every piece of panty and clothing you have should be green! This is where ol boy realizes you have the tendencies of a stalker and starts to distance himself.

Get your hair done when you want and how you want it because YOU LIKE IT!

Paint your nails colors you like because you like em! *sidenote: you shouldn't necessarily be with a man that pays THAT MUCH attention to the color of your nails to begin with.*

On occasion its more than appropriate to do things for your man, or things you know he likes but balance will be the savior of many-a-relationship and many-a-sanity.

People grow, people change (or at-least I hope they do) and their so does their temperament along with many other things. Your taste in clothes, music, food etc has evolved or changed completely from the time you were eating Gerber's baby food to now. I say that to say it's not always a change that we are aware of but it happens regardless.

As a woman you have to choose whether you're going to embrace those changes by trying to adjust accordingly (considering you'd want the same from your mate) or you're going to move on. Becoming clingy and changing who you are just to fit someones ideals should never be an option, because if no matter which route you choose, nothing will "keep" him.

I've seen women in the Bahamian society marry a man knowing his habits, his flaws, and his short comings and expect a miracle of a turn around the moment that man says I do. If this is what you're thinking you need to stop right there. When you marry someone, marry them knowing their flaws (or the ones they allow you to see) with the expectation that more trials, tribulations and good times are still to come and with the hope and belief that both of you have the faith and the strength to overcome whatever obstacles may present themselves to both of you.

If you do you and keep it 100 and dude still leaves then you should be more than assured that something better awaits.

Be prepared, be aware and be yourself because nothing will "keep" him.

Try

I believe in Jehovah Jireh

I believe in heaven, I believe in war

I believe a woman's temple

Gives her the right to choose but baby don't abort

I believe that marriage isn't

Between a man and woman but between love and love

And I believe you when you say you've lost all faith

But you most believe in something, something, something

You gotta believe in something, something, something

Lemme firstly say that I am far from a Frank Ocean fan, but when this cover was played for me it stirred me; made me want to listen and I as I listened the lyrics stood out. 

The song talks about beliefs and disbeliefs and most importantly trying.

I gather that he doesn't outright believe that humans are outright wicked, evil but that there is good in all of us and we have to try in order to allow the good to prevail.

That is easier said than done.

Someone pisses you off, isn't just easier to tell them off?

You found out this one chick talked mad trash about you, rather than confront her you do her the same service.

Your boy 'effed' that chick while you two were dating so you repay the favour.

Does any of those things display maturity, a level head or any type of understanding? No they don't.

We've all at one point or another become disillusioned. Remember having the greatest hopes or optimism for life?

Remember in church when the pastor made you believe God would smite you if you didn't pray before each meal. Or when you swore mom and dad would be together forever. Those were your beliefs.

Your faith was unshakeable, only Jesus himself could have told you otherwise, then as you grew you met this thing called reality and it set in. Your optimism faded and you became jaded. 

Its time to wipe the fish scales from your eyes, walk down that yellow brick road and restore your faith in humankind.

No one is perfect and we can all attest to that. We as humans fall short, we are fallible.

We however should try: 

Try to be better, do better, if the negativity comes so easily take a deep breath; a step back or just bite your tongue. Not every battle is worth going to war.

Don't be a floor mat for anybody but aim to be slow to anger, practice makes perfect.

I could sit here and preach all day but I surely do not live a perfect life, no one does.

All I'm suggesting is that we all try, make some sort of effort. 

What goes around comes around and if Richie Spice was right and the world is a circle then pay it forward and #playitforward and the world will be a much better place.

In the City: Get used to it

I couldn't sing to save my life, but I appreciate good music. I live on an island just bursting with talent and can appreciate when said talent is recognized. Now I couldn't tell you how to harmonize, make a beat, etc but I know I when like something after hearing, seeing or tasting it.

From the politically charged  

to the lyrics laced with the reality of today  

I appreciate the many forms that my Bahamian music can come in.

Whether the music came from a "Gorilla in Tims" 

or a soulful bird that would cause reflection and ultimately the calming of one's being for a period of time,

I love listening to them all. With all that said, how many of us can actually say we support our own? We buy the itunes songs or download the free mixtapes or go to the launch and send off parties that these talented individuals put together?

Being musically gifted in an island where music is a long way from the fore-front of the governments agenda is a blessing and a curse.These individuals will have to pave the way, cause clearly there is none, light up the darkness and shed light on  a collective group of islands that is clearly worth more than our sun sand and sea and offshore banking initiatives.

Whether they just wanna be  (popular) or they are in it for the long haul and for the love of it, they are talented.

To be able to be as versatile as some of these artists are in the land of rake and scrape is nothing short of amazing. No disrespect to those that express themselves through that avenue but in our technologically advanced era, this generation of singers, song writers, rappers, engineers, producers and beat makers have proven that they can indeed roll with the punches and evolve as the industry does.

So before you crank that soulja boy why not stunt on em hard swag and leave 

They say a prophet is never respected in his hometown well times are changing and so should our views of the gifted people we are blessed to come in contact with. 

Whether it be musically, visual art, sculpture etc. Like the old rake and scrape song says "Get involved, get involved" and play it forward so the next generations appreciation of our ever-evolving culture can be greater than ours!

Too precious to throw away

Rubbing your eyes in disbelief (like a real lifetime movie)

Some things are that hard to believe!

When you’ve been through so much, endured and had to constantly adjust letting your guard down is no easy task.

The past has taught you many lessons; most of which seem to have left a bitter after-taste in your mouth.

We have all been down this road but life is too short to let past experiences have a lasting negative effect on what can be a promising future.

You’d never really know unless you put yourself out there and try.

Never let a past relationship to cause you to miss out on future happiness.

We so often stand in our own way, never knowing the joys we may have experienced had we taken the chance; the risk that was set before us.

They joys of life are more felt when one remembers the pain endured.

A friend in L.A. was looking out there window and saw a white middle aged man walking along the side walk, seconds later this same guy walked into on-coming traffic in attempt to commit suicide. He obviously could no longer deal with the stresses of life.

As sickingly funny as it seemed to me at the time, I couldn’t comprehend what could be so bad that would make you want to take your own life. Luckily on-coming traffic avoided him and he only sustained injuries to his hand. Hopefully he gets the treatment he needs and can look forward to brighter tomorrows.

Take time and smell the roses, don’t hold the future accountable for the past.

 

When life gives you lemons, squeeze em and ciroc, stir and enjoy.

We’d never appreciate the sunshine if we didn’t experience the rainy days.

Like the weather, life constantly changes. Roll with the punches, allow the wounds to heal and enjoy every moment that you’re given. As long as there is breathe in your body there will be opportunity.

The stresses of life: bills, relationships, etc are fleeting and continuous. Plan but don’t stress over things you have no control over. You are but one being, one separate entity and although change starts with you moving a mountain is easier with someone else’s help.

Sometimes help is easier to receive than it seems but you’ll never know until you ask.

Take a chance, a gamble; because life in itself is a gamble, but never gamble more than you’re willing to lose...